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They’ll Be Fine”: Why Saying “Kids Are Resilient” After Divorce Isn’t the Whole Truth
I went to a social worker as a teenager for over two years. And yes, it helped. I could finally talk about the horrendous things that happened to me growing up. But the truth? We only scratched the surface. The deeper wounds stayed buried.
As a child of a high-conflict divorce, I didn’t realize how much the instability and constant tension were shaping me. On the outside, I appeared to be fine. Inside, I was surviving.
The Unseen Lifeline: How Siblings Help Each Other Through Divorce
Watching my daughters navigate our divorce together has been one of the most unexpectedly powerful parts of this journey. They lean on each other, confide in each other, and instinctively offer comfort in ways that even I can’t always provide. I remember one day, when an issue came up with their co-parent, they didn’t come to me right away. Instead, they met quietly in one of their bedrooms to talk. I didn’t listen in, but I remember thinking: this is powerful. As teenagers, they understood the value of facing difficult moments as a team.
It made me realize something I hadn’t fully understood before: siblings can be an incredible source of strength during divorce.