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Why So Many Midlife Women Are Saying: Enough, I am getting a Divorce!
In my 40s, my periods started going haywire—heavier, more erratic, and totally draining. But what I didn’t realize then was that something deeper was shifting: not just my hormones, but my entire view of my marriage. I was drained from constantly giving everything, being blamed for everything, and the constant lies. I was in a marriage with a high-conflict personality.
However, at the time that my periods were starting to act funky, I didn’t connect the dots between perimenopause and my growing desire for a divorce. My hormones were shifting, so were my emotions, my patience was decreasing, and my tolerance for a relationship that had long taken more than it gave. Can I blame my divorce solely on perimenopause? Absolutely not, but it definitely influenced my decision.
Grey Divorce and the Effects on your Children
What struck me in that conversation was the assumption that once kids grow up, we often think our children are somehow shielded from the impact of divorce. The reality is, that divorce is a significant event with lasting effects that extend beyond just the younger ones in the family. Recent statistics reveal that 16.4% of divorces involve marriages of 25 years or more, and 42% occur in marriages lasting between 10 and 24 years. While it's acknowledged that divorce does affect children, especially in high-conflict situations, the idea that young adults come out unscathed is incorrect. Challenges and grief persist, emphasizing the need for a thorough understanding of the impact of divorce on individuals of all ages