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Handing in My Wand: The Chilling Link Between Housework and Spousal Entitlement
Behind the Trail of Garlic Powder and Toenails
Near the end of my own 19-year marriage, my frustration evolved into something much heavier than just being tired. I was getting physically sick of cleaning up after a grown man.
I’m talking about a partner who was entirely incapable of putting a plate in the dishwasher. A man who would leave his clipped toenails all over the couch, and leave garlic powder scattered across the counters like snow after cooking. Outside, it was the same story, no lawn cutting, no snow shoveling.
Torn Apart: My Journey of how I lost my Son to Divorce
Divorce can be a brutal battlefield, and amidst the wreckage of a failed marriage, I had endured 25 years of a very draining and, at times, abusive relationship. I left my marriage, and I had no idea that I would lose one of my sons as well. This loss is as real and profound as any other, yet it's shrouded in ambiguity, making it even harder to bear. He is physically absent, but he is psychologically very present. In reality, I am mourning a child who is no longer in my world, even though he's alive and well and living an hour from me.
My journey through the grief of ambiguous loss is compounded by the painful reality of my son being coercively controlled by my ex-spouse. It's a scenario that no parent should ever have to endure, but unfortunately, it's a stark reality for many of us in similar situations. Parental alienation has torn my family apart, and it's an intricate web of manipulation and emotional distance that's difficult to convey.