Say Goodbye to Paralysis by Analysis: Overcoming Divorce Indecision and Embracing a Brighter Tomorrow
Moving forward with a divorce can be a complex and challenging decision.
Here are some common things that can get in the way, hindering or delaying the process:
1. Emotional attachment to your spouse, memories, or the life you built together can make it difficult to initiate or proceed with a divorce. Fear of loneliness, guilt, or the desire to salvage the relationship can create emotional barriers.
2. Financial considerations often play a significant role in divorce. Concerns about dividing assets, debts, and financial stability post-divorce can create uncertainty and hesitation. Financial dependence on the spouse or fear of financial hardship can impede progress.
3. For couples with children, concerns about their well-being, custody arrangements, and the potential impact of divorce on their lives can be a significant obstacle. The desire to maintain stability for the children or fear of disrupting their lives may delay the divorce process.
4. Understanding and navigating the legal process of divorce can be daunting. Concerns about the cost, time, and potential conflict involved in divorce proceedings can lead to hesitation. A lack of knowledge about legal rights and obligations can also contribute to delays.
5. Societal and cultural norms, family expectations, and the fear of judgment or stigma can create barriers to divorce. Pressure from family, friends, or religious communities may make it challenging to move forward.
After reviewing this list let's begin by recognizing that these challenges are common and normal. By acknowledging this we can begin growing our awareness of the most important thing to start with and build upon in this difficult transition:
You are not alone!
Going through a divorce can be emotionally draining and overwhelming. Lack of emotional support from friends, family, or a professional network can make it difficult to take the necessary steps toward divorce, so it is essential to start by getting this support. With the support and knowledge of those you deliberately place around you, you will make better decisions and make them more confidently and quickly.
To begin with, locate a divorce mediator. Do a quick search online and set up consultations( which are most often free of charge and available virtually)with a few mediators. Make notes about each consult. How did you resonate with the mediator? Were they encouraging to you? Will they provide you with the resources and guidance to address your biggest concerns? (which probably exists in the list above) A good mediator will serve as a center of operations and direct you to the questions you will need to answer and the people and information you will need to do so. Divorce coaches, divorce financial advisors, real estate appraisers, and business valuators are just a few.
By remembering that each of these small steps is designed to help you feel supported and not alone, you will build momentum, clarity, and a support structure for yourself. Each one of these small steps will bring you one step closer to resolution and a new better life.
