Why It Only Feels Good 10% of the Time: The Truth About Toxic Relationships

Have you ever found yourself clinging to the few good moments in your relationship, the smiles, the intimacy, the laughter, while ignoring the long stretches of silence, tension, or emotional pain?

You’re not alone. Many people in emotionally abusive or toxic relationships describe their experience as “walking on eggshells,” unsure what mood they’ll come home to, constantly trying to avoid setting off a reaction.

And yet... they stay. Like I did.

Why? Because when it’s good, it’s really good. It’s the 10% that feels like sunshine after a storm. The make-up sex. The flowers. The apology. The “I miss you.” The vacation photo where you both look happy. It’s that sliver of time that keeps hope alive.

But what about the other 90%?